Relationships are hard. Even the best relationships require understanding, dedication, and hard work. We’re taught to read, to do math, and even how to have sex in school. But nowhere, not in school or at home, are we ever taught how to have relationships.

We’re not given a user’s manual, or a how-to guide, that tells us what a healthy, happy relationship should look like. When you think about it, that makes sense. There are so many different kinds of relationships, and what makes one person, couple, or family thrive could make another miserable.

But without a guide, our only way to understand relationships is to look at the examples set by others around us. Our parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and our friends’ parents as we grow up. Other teens as we begin navigating the world of dating, self-exploration, and friendship. Other young, married couples with families as we start our own families.

We only get a partial view of these relationships, though. We see what they want us to see, and we never see what goes on behind closed doors.

And none of those people are us. We are individuals, with our own unique desires and needs. We can’t just rely on what we see of others’ relationships to form our own. We have to know ourselves. We have to know what we want and need.

So how do we do that?

Do you know who you are, at a soul level? Are you ready to get in touch with your soul, with the very depths of your being? Do you want to get so deeply in touch with yourself that no one can persuade you of anything you don’t know to be true deep down inside of yourself? Do you want to be able to hold onto that soul level knowledge of yourself and present that person to the people you date?

It’s time to dig deep and get to know yourself in a way you never have before. The better you know yourself, the better your relationships will be.

Are you ready to make yourself a priority? Are you ready to set boundaries and put yourself first? Are you ready to make your relationships happier, healthier, and easier?

When yet another relationship has ended, you can feel conflicted, confused, uncertain who you are or what you want. You might have lost your identity in the relationship or maybe you didn’t even have it before the relationship. When you realize it’s time to make a change, that’s when it’s time to come back to your essential self.

It’s time to shed the layers of built-up expectations and demands that others have placed on you so you can find your way back to yourself.

You are more than a mom, a spouse, a grandma, a daughter. You are not defined by the roles you play or the expectations of others. You don’t have to live up to the demands of another person or society in general.

You don’t have to follow a path laid out by anyone else. Forge your own path through the wilderness of relationships. You need only dive inside yourself and learn what it is you want.

Your worth isn’t found in other people, in achievements, or in being able to toe the line of being the perfect woman that others describe. Your identity is separate from that of your children, your significant other, your parents, and everyone else in your life. Your identity is more than labels, more than roles, more than what other people see. And yet, every label, every role, every relationship you’ve ever had has contributed in some way to who you are today and who you will be tomorrow.

I want to help you find out who you are and what kind of relationships you want. I want to help you find and grow your confidence, self-esteem, intuition, and dreams.

I want you to be able to offer the best of yourself to someone who will do the same for you, whether that’s yourself, a romantic partner, or your family or friends. I want you to have a deep knowledge of what you want and need, and to stand unwavering in that knowledge when presented with a relationship that doesn’t offer it – any relationship, platonic or otherwise. I want you to walk away from anyone and anything that that isn’t good enough for you.

I want you to know that there are people who aren’t good enough for you and that there are people who are. And I want you to be able to see the difference.

I want to help you shed your old ways and reframe your perspective of yourself. I want to help you reclaim your time, your assets, and your identity for yourself. I want to show you this is not selfish – it’s smart.

I want you to be a whole woman, offering the truth of who you are to your relationships. Let me be your guide as you come back to your essential self.